Friends can make or break your life!

Growing up, we have always been told: surround yourself with good people, you become the person you surround yourself with, your company defines you, and so many more things.

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Well, as an adult, I confirm all of it is absolutely true. Why I say that—lately I have been watching this series called The Bold Type. It’s about three women navigating their 20s. It seems like an old story; we have seen that. But what stood out to me is that these three women, despite having all the challenges a person in their 20s can have—be it career problems or love problems—always showed up for each other. And I don’t mean just a text or a call, but truly standing with the person while they navigated their life, while also dealing with their own.

Now some of you will think, "But this is a serial, and it’s fake. While I do agree that it’s shown in a TV serial, which probably doesn’t have realistic implications, these things can happen in real life too. And I have experienced them. But I have also experienced how much it hurts when you lose a friend, when you don’t talk, when things fall apart without a reason. I have been on both sides, and I am happy to confirm that friends truly do make or break your life.

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Now, coming back to friends—I understand it’s so hard to find true friends who align with you, but my question is, how can we find true friends when we aren’t probably true with ourselves?

So if I can say Step One to finding true friends, your soul tribe, is to know yourself—know what you like, know who you are, and know your boundaries.

See, so many friendship breakups don’t happen because one person is bad, but because we never truly saw the signs clearly — that probably you aren’t aligned, that you are completely different people who don’t seem to find a common ground—and you ignore it because you love the person, and one day it falls apart.

Well, to avoid all the drama, follow step one till you are so clear.

Step Two is to become the friend you want. By that I mean, if you are a shitty friend and expect other people to treat you a certain way, well, I have bad news for you—it won’t work.

And Step Three, probably the most important in adult friendships: don’t try to find a best friend in everyone. It’s okay to have one best friend, but it’s also okay to have some office friends, some just-for-fun friends, and some friends you connect with over a hobby. Everyone can’t be everything to you, and that’s okay.

Lastly, friends are for you to have fun, for you to have a safe space, for you to feel good about yourself, and for them to make you a better person. And if none of it is happening, maybe it’s time to say goodbye.

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Because you truly haven’t met so many people who are going to love and accept you for who you are and who will be nothing but fun, joy, and a blessing.

And my wish for all of you truly is that you find that—at least in one person. And if you don’t see that anywhere, maybe you and I can be friends. After all, I did write this article, and I am pretty cool.

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With love always 🤍

Bhagyashree

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